August 8, 2013
Trust was natural and effortless at first––but over time, relational hard knocks and disappointments have taken their toll. By now, you’ve undoubtedly learned many first-hand lessons about how fragile trust can be and how easily it can be broken.
Even so, you and most of the members and leaders in your church have probably never been taught biblically sound ways to build trust –– or more difficult still, how to restore it when it has been broken.
It’s tragic considering trust is the foundation of all good relationships, leadership, and ministry. Without it everything you care about and God cares about doing through you simply falls apart. It’s essential for moving past superficial niceties to real connections with God, one another, and your community.
So how can you build trust? And how can you rebuild it when it’s broken? The best advice I know comes in the following New Testament quote: “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” ––James 1:19
Being “quick to listen” means noticing and addressing issues long before potential disasters become full-blown ones. The business world uses the term proactive. I prefer pre-disastering; a made-up word that means anticipating, understanding, and being prepared to meet relational needs before they become disasters.
This special kind of listening is the first and most important power tool in your biblical trust-building toolbox. But like any powerful tool, it takes practice to master it. Unfortunately, those who need the most practice usually think they’re experts already.
For those who do want to get better at being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, here are some resources that have helped thousands turn from trustbusting habits to become trust builders and peacemakers:
Listening For Heaven’s Sake: Building Healthy Relationships with God, Self & Others
Quick-to-Listen Leaders: Where Life-Changing Ministry Begins
Trust Building DVD: Loving, Listening, & Leading More Like Jesus
Trust Building Inventory: Free Download
God Space: Where Spiritual Conversations Happen Naturally